Are you playing for the offense or the defense?

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Are you playing for the offense or the defense?

As summer slowly eases into fall, the mornings are crisper, the leaves are starting to turn, and the kids are back to school. Also – it’s football time!

Sports analogies are rampant in our culture and there’s a reason why. A game is life played head on – football often literally! In a game, we see drama, excitement, hope and loss several times over. For most of us, our lives are not as dramatic minute to minute, but the same themes are there, playing out over a lifetime.

And, as with all good metaphors, we can use the themes of offense and defense to examine our own lives and where we’re headed.

Playing for the offense, you’ve clearly defined your goal and where you’re going. You might not know exactly how you’re going to get there, but you can see it. As you progress down the field, you see openings as well as blocks you couldn’t possibly have imagined. You take in all the information around you and make decisions based on what is happening RIGHT NOW.

Hopefully, you have a team of supporters around you, helping you course correct when you get a little too excited or too frustrated, keeping you on track for that touchdown. The more people you have on your team, the easier it is to stay focused, to stay true to your chief aim.

We’d like to think we’re all playing for the offense, keeping our eyes on the prize. But that’s often not the case. Many times, we’re on the defense – taking ourselves further away from what we want by getting involved in other people’s games.

On the defense, we try to keep others from getting to their goals. We get in their way. We think we know better than they do and “just want to help.”

Just as you have your goals, others have their own. They have passions and desires that you can’t possibly fully know and understand – even if it’s a partner in life.

So really examine yourself. Are you supportive or, in the spirit of just being helpful, letting them know how it’s not going to work, giving a multitude of reasons why they will fail or get hurt.

When you act in that role for someone else, you’re not only going to get it right back, you’re taking yourself out of your own game! You find yourself tangled in other people’s games , caught up in extensive drama (that’s not even your own) and exhausting yourself in the process.

If you find yourself playing defense, think about why you’re acting this way. Are you jealous? Insecure? So frustrated with life that you’re unsure of whether true happiness really exists? Do you feel protective and want to keep others from getting their feelings hurt?

Whatever the reason, it’s yours. It’s part of who you are and a result of your experience. It’s also easy to change.  It’s only when we support each other, play on the same team – that we all win.

If you want to win, the easiest way is to help others. Sometimes it means being supportive. Sometimes it means simply butting out.

What people are saying about Morter Wellness

WOW…Dr. Ted, you have “The Touch”. For years I have had chronic low back pain. It has been so severe at times that I was unable to walk. I have seen other doctors and they have helped, but the pain has always remained. I have learned to deal with it on a daily basis. The mornings are the worse, trying to get out of bed. After two treatments from you, I was able to get out of bed and feel fantastic…ready to start my day. Thank You! Thank You! I am a believer and will keep coming in for regular “tune ups” for my body.

Susan, Arkansas

When we first started going to see Dr. Katy in January 2011, my son was having about 10-15 seizures a day, that lasted about 5-10 seconds, and he would fall most times and when he fell at school, they sent him home. January, and February he was sent home almost everyday. Dr. Katy did a lot of adjustments, and gave my son exercises to do to reduce stress. She also changed his diet and our whole family is now eating healthier because of her educating us….Our health has totally changed, we feel so much better!… Since Dr. Katy started us on the diet, my sons seizures have been few and far between, and if and when we see one it is only a maximum 2-3 seconds. Read the rest of Elijah’s story here.

Scheleta, Indiana

What I expected was for Dr. Ted to adjust my back by pushing and causing it to crack… I wasn’t expecting the treatment or results I received and I can’t explain what happened… That one non-invasive, unaggressive adjustment led to the elimination of lower back pain that I had suffered from for many years – and had seen other doctors for!… I was anticipating something extraordinary and that’s just what I got. Go for it! Read the rest of Shenice’s story here.

Shenice, Indiana

I am 27 years old, and I was born with mild spastic cerebral palsy. All my life I’ve had back and muscle pain because of the way my cerebral palsy causes me to walk. My pain always got even worse when I was under emotional stress. I was in physical therapy for most of my childhood, though I couldn’t see it helping me. I started going to Dr. Katy about six weeks ago, and within two days of my first adjustment I noticed a vast improvement in my walking. Now I am walking straighter than I ever have, and I can walk for much longer before getting tired. Now when my feet move incorrectly, I notice it right away and I am able to adjust my feet immediately. This is something I’ve never been able to do before going to Dr. Katy. The treatment I’ve received with Dr. Katy is the only treatment I’ve ever truly seen help me.

Maria, Indiana